Monday, December 28, 2009
Friends who came straight out of my mind.
I successfully listed 41 true friends of mine and kept counting, and all these while I was complaining about having untrustworthy friends. I was too much emphasizing on the bad people but didn’t notice the quiet and genuine friends of mine are waiting to be with me.
Some cynical thought of the day titled "Selfishness of yours"
"I’m confused and disturbed, uncertain about how the live the world. You ask me to share with you suggesting you might be able to lead me to the answers. Unfortunately, I don’t even know the questions to be asked yet, even if I ever discover them, I’m sorry but you won’t be the audience. Not that I think you’re incapable of getting the answers right, but it’s more like I know, you don’t care about me." A person who loves you but may be intellectually weaker than you has more chances of understanding your real issue even it's a very difficult one, as opposed to the people around you who are more intellectually capable of telling you the answer has a problem of "pre-help barrier" which includes not listening.
Saturday, December 5, 2009
My Enemy
=Blinding pride=
- thinks that we need certain degree of rational pride as one of the elements that builds up confidence that let us succeed in what we do.
- prudence in handling pride is critical. As if you're not aware, too much of it is intoxicating.
=High expectation on others=
- find it irrational to expect others to have well-mannered behavior. As it is unnecessary and tiring, leading to unhappiness.
- recommends solution of humble self but overdo things but differentiate that this treatment should not be applied to others as I did. Previously.
- No one can be flawless. Within an interacting community. Every individual have varying degree and type of flaws. As we grow into adulthood, some flaws which are complex and difficult to be understood by people around us who cares i.e. some problems within us that only we ourselves can discover and find our own "custom-made" solution. Most people will choose avoidance as usual as it is perceived as the easier solution. When these individuals keep avoiding them, the bad experiences caused by their own unresolved problems, whether directly or indirectly, will haunt them throughout their lives. As an outcome, inducing fear. This is the point when people have to disguise subconsciously. Exacerbating the issue when if we innocently face it from the beginning, we could be happier - genuinely proud of ourselves and let our family and friends be comfortable around us.
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"Defensive pessimism is a strategy used in specific situations to manage anxiety, fear, and worry," says Norem... "Defensive pessimists - prepare for a situation by setting low expectations for themselves, then follow up with a very detailed assessment of everything that may go wrong." Once they've imagined the full range of bad outcomes, they start figuring out how they'll handle them, and that gives them a sense of control.
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=Patience=
- author is lazy to describe how important patience is. Readers interested to read to this extent should be a patient person yourself, aye, aye, aye?
- recommending for myself to get more "dose" of this.
- thinks that we need certain degree of rational pride as one of the elements that builds up confidence that let us succeed in what we do.
- prudence in handling pride is critical. As if you're not aware, too much of it is intoxicating.
=High expectation on others=
- find it irrational to expect others to have well-mannered behavior. As it is unnecessary and tiring, leading to unhappiness.
- recommends solution of humble self but overdo things but differentiate that this treatment should not be applied to others as I did. Previously.
- No one can be flawless. Within an interacting community. Every individual have varying degree and type of flaws. As we grow into adulthood, some flaws which are complex and difficult to be understood by people around us who cares i.e. some problems within us that only we ourselves can discover and find our own "custom-made" solution. Most people will choose avoidance as usual as it is perceived as the easier solution. When these individuals keep avoiding them, the bad experiences caused by their own unresolved problems, whether directly or indirectly, will haunt them throughout their lives. As an outcome, inducing fear. This is the point when people have to disguise subconsciously. Exacerbating the issue when if we innocently face it from the beginning, we could be happier - genuinely proud of ourselves and let our family and friends be comfortable around us.
"
"Defensive pessimism is a strategy used in specific situations to manage anxiety, fear, and worry," says Norem... "Defensive pessimists - prepare for a situation by setting low expectations for themselves, then follow up with a very detailed assessment of everything that may go wrong." Once they've imagined the full range of bad outcomes, they start figuring out how they'll handle them, and that gives them a sense of control.
"
=Patience=
- author is lazy to describe how important patience is. Readers interested to read to this extent should be a patient person yourself, aye, aye, aye?
- recommending for myself to get more "dose" of this.
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